tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3745323814621590854.post1254347064854894115..comments2023-05-02T09:10:56.745-05:00Comments on Under the Acacia Tree: Half time, full time, not all the timeM and Mhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00557944772547796979noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3745323814621590854.post-41748713944853354802009-10-13T15:51:26.737-05:002009-10-13T15:51:26.737-05:00Really, really appreciate this... a good "gra...Really, really appreciate this... a good "grass is always greener" lesson... mlwAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3745323814621590854.post-90356709042810164392009-09-16T21:11:56.546-05:002009-09-16T21:11:56.546-05:00I hear you. There's a big vacuum in our house...I hear you. There's a big vacuum in our house when Jack is at his dad's. (Belo does try to talk non-stop to fill the vacuum, but...) It takes a lot of effort on my behalf to not call and talk to him every day when he's gone.<br /><br />After he's gone for a couple of hours, Belo starts his continuous questioning of when Jack is coming back. No matter how much they were fighting before, he is so lonely when Jack is gone (Maxy Pants tries, but he just can't quite fill the shoes of his big, big brother.)<br /><br />When I was at foster parent training sessions, one of the things they covered a lot was dealing with the foster child after s/he returned from visiting the bio parents - their emotions, pull of loyalties, acting out, etc. I never expected at that time that so much of the stuff I learned in that session would apply to my bio son upon his return from a stay at his dad's house.Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12075695049692012076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3745323814621590854.post-32629540963586715522009-09-16T08:28:24.201-05:002009-09-16T08:28:24.201-05:00Nancy - and you know, this post doesn't even a...Nancy - and you know, this post doesn't even address how my kids feel. Thank you for getting at this with sharing about the challenge of this for your son. <br />In our house, one set of Christian and one set of Jewish holidays ease the "decisions". And, while we are both remarried, it does seem my home is the draw for shared holidays - I have become the keeper of tradition, and it is a draw to my children. They don't like Thanksgiving at their Dad's house as it is his wife's family, etc....nice for me, but I believe they miss having their dad's attention and focus. I'm selfishly ok with this - but I know it's not best for them. Indeed, it hurtsM and Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00557944772547796979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3745323814621590854.post-27767543727763890642009-09-16T06:09:20.252-05:002009-09-16T06:09:20.252-05:00Oh I can so relate to this.
We have the same sit...Oh I can so relate to this. <br /><br />We have the same situation and I underestimated how hard it still is for my son at 23 years old. It wears on him having to spend "equal" time at both homes. When holidays hit he is torn further with guilt, and it pains me.<br /><br />Both his parents have remarried and have young ones. He finds himself further in the divide.<br /><br />It hurts.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00191734621026102200noreply@blogger.com